Personal Development With Attitude

F**K The Banks

2010-05-10T14:01:00.000-07:00

YOU cannot Fail. It's The Other You

2010-05-01T16:31:00.000-07:00

I have a really off the wall thought for you today.

Having gone back over some clients files recently for some research and ideas I have come up with a rather interesting fact, it appeared that most peoples problems and worries came when they were not 'just being themselves'.

Let me explain, we all at some time or other aspire to be famous, or talented, or clever, or funny, you get the idea. Well what do we immediately do in most cases? we look at someone who is already what we want to be and attempt to copy them.

There are also times when we are doing things in our life that are what someone else wants us to do, for example studying a certain subject or profession at uni, or doing things to make other people happy, that are not a natural fit with our desires.

If you notice all these situations are NOT US BEING US, they are us being or doing something that is not a natural fit. Therefore we cannot ever be totally relaxed because we are not doing what comes naturally.

If you wanted to be a famous actor, would there be any benefit in copying someone who is already successful, of course not, because how ever good you became at copying them , the best you could ever hope to be is second best or a copy of someone else.

You must also consider the extra pressure on you because of the fact that you cannot relax, because you are not being you.

So my observation is this, What ever you want to be or do, make sure that you do it BEING YOU.

If you are always being you and doing things that you want to do, you cannot fail, because you are the original.

Instead of spending too much time looking at people and wanting to be like them, just spend a little time making you the person YOU want to be and everything else will fall into place.

This does not of course say don't admire people, but I am saying do not copy people. Who knows if you just start being you, the real you maybe a much better person than the person you admire.

If we do just concentrate on being us, it also lets our natural programme of success shine through.

So today's little task is to look in the mirror and start to really like the person you see and let him/her start living a relaxed natural life to success

I WILL

2010-04-25T16:58:00.000-07:00

Have you ever wondered why some people can do extraordinary things or apparently make successes of every part of their life? The simple answer is, because they think they can.

It is strange how people look everywhere else , other than inside their own mind, to find the solutions and answers to their situations.

The simple fact is that you can always do, what you think you can do. Unfortunately this is a double edged sword, because it allows us to think that we cannot do something.

The internal part of us, that tells us what we are not, capable of is called the WILL and it is your obedient servant, like wise the internal power that tells us what we are capable of is also called the WILL.

The same part of your mind is controlling your entire life good and bad. It is therefore preferable to use it to achieve things you want rather than to use it to avoid doing things.

The WILL is recognised in general speech and has various sayings linked with it to illustrate its power.

When a child misbehaves and there is absolutely nothing you can do to control it ,we tend to say, it is strong willed, or if someone chooses to do something that we initially think might be challenging, we say, “Where theres a WILL theres a way.” So even in just those two examples we have indicated the good and the bad capabilities of our WILL.

Most people do not fully develop their WILL and when they do use it, they use it to stop them doing things and create excuses that their WILL confirms are true.

Your WILL is the most important part of your mind when it comes to success, because it makes a prophecy of what you can achieve, if you start to work with your Will and make it your friend and start believing ,the things it tells you that you can do, the better.

It is possible that you will have visions and ideas that you firmly believe you can achieve , that never eventuate or materialise, that is because the WILL and WILL POWER are two separate things.

It is no earthly good, you convincing yourself that you can do something and then waiting, until the climate is right, or until things change a bit, or until you can work out exactly how things will happen etc.. If you need all these things to align, there will never be right time.

This is where you need the action and this is the WILL POWER, the power to drive the WILL.

If you continually keep giving reasons why you cannot do things, or believe that you can achieve something, but are going to wait until the time is right, you will start to create a culture of accepted failure and this is a real demon to exorcise . When we keep accepting our failures or not acting on our beliefs , we lose hope and confidence and when we lose those two things we have lost everything.

The great thing though is that your WILL is always there and it does not matter where you are in life or how low you feel, he will come to your aid and allow you to map out your future, provided that you are prepared to take advantage of his power, and give yourself a kick up the butt and pledge to action your thoughts.

The Will is your self originating force and no one else has any control over it, so once you decide to use it to create success and as I said, pledge to take action, nothing can stop you.

We have discussed before that a major thing that stops you starting, is trying to get to your destination in one leap. Identify with the fact that everyone who is where you want to be, has been in a similar situation to you, or has at least had to travel their own journey.

Do not settle for less than you are capable, whether your capabilities lie in creating something, helping others, being a good provider for your family, being a great parent, being a painter or an author or absolutely anything that you desire, just know that once you have the WILL you will definitely find the way.

Lessons From The Past

2010-04-24T00:05:00.000-07:00

It was not until I turned 50 and looked back at my life, that all the things that I learnt at that time made sense. I could see exactly what had caused my very eventful life and knowing what I know now would have changed so much. I am not looking back with any regrets, far from it, but I do know that the information I have got and the wisdom I have gained from making mistakes [failing] is so valuable.

Why do people readily go to others to learn a myriad of disciplines and skills, but when it comes to life, they ignore people who have lived a life and in many cases do not even bother to ask. Even someone who has lived a very basic life will have an enormous amount of information on different problems.

The thing is though that you must have faith in the person you ask, because they may have gone through life just making out that they had achieved all they were capable of, so that information, may not be all that helpful. It is not until you really put yourself out there and are prepared to make mistakes in the search of your goal, that you really learn.

One of my success exercises, is to try and fail 10 times in a row. Believe it or not that is virtually impossible. Therefore success is always borne out of failure. So my advice is to fail as often and as quick as you can. Make sure though that all your attempts are leading you towards your goal. Do not set out to fail, that would be stupid, but do not let failure keep you down, failures, really are the stepping stones to success.

It seems in todays world we spend less time teaching our youth the basics of a successful life than we do teaching them the capital cities of various countries or the major rivers of the world. In a society that now has access to virtually every bit of art, knowledge, music, books etc., at the push of a button, do you not think that some time should be spent learning lifes intricacies from someone who has travelled the road so that the peaks and troughs of the journey make some sense.

We wonder why we get confused, but as things change so quickly we tend to think that we need different information to deal with them. The information in truwords is timeless and infact the only art is taking the information and putting it in a way that is easily digestable.

Every bit of information you could possibly want is, as I said readily available, so why do you need a programme like truwords. The simple answer is that when you stumble across something that you do not understand, you will grasp things 100 times better if you have someone to answer questions and put you back on the track.

How To Eat An Elephant

2010-04-13T00:32:00.000-07:00

GETTING STARTED

The biggest problem with anything is starting, and if you look at the entire task, it will depress you before you even start. As I have said before, this is no different than eating an elephant. If you contemplate eating it in one mouthful, you obviously will never attempt it, if however you make the decision to do it one bite at a time, it does not even look like a task at all.

As you look at this scenario initially you can see the solution but if you keep looking at how much of the elephant is left, or how far you have to go, most people will give up after a very short time.

This is one of my little secrets, hide the elephant, and just realise that every mouthful is taking you nearer to your destination. The bottom line is, that it ain’t easy, but it is possible for everyone to do it, once they have committed and realised that there is some work to do.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Once you have committed you must accept that you are 100% responsible for your life. How many of you blame everyone else when things go wrong, we never seem to put ourselves in any part of the reason why. It is always something else or someone elses fault.

I suggest that before you even try to make sense of all this, you keep repeating that you are in total control and the decisions that you make will be your responsibility.

Instead of asking yourself “Why did this happen” ask yourself “How can I change it or improve it.” When we get really low we ask ourselves “What is wrong with me” and your brain dashes around finding answers to that question, and more often than not, they are not things that you want to hear. This then sends you into a negative frame of mind, and our dear friend the law of attraction starts bringing you lots more negativity.

CLIMBING BACK

At this point think back over the last five years to something really terrible that has happened to you, even now it will not appear so bad, because time eases our memory.

Try and find out what you learnt from that experience, what positive can you draw from it? Try and remember how you felt and how you just got more and more depressed, attracting exactly the same as you were putting out.

Slowly as things changed and you moved on, you started climbing back up the ladder, and as you slowly started to be a bit happier, things got back on track, and the more you tried to get on with your life, the more things aligned to make it better.

This illustrates the power that we all possess to control things, once we make the decision to move on, everything changes. I never forget a line that Rebecca put in her SOGR course. “One day we will laugh about this, Why don’t we laugh about it now?”

OPPORTUNITY

One thing that I will make perfectly clear, we all have the equipment to make this work, unfortunately some people because of previous programming refuse to believe that, and they get their mind to agree with them, as to why thy cannot do it.

The simple act of just setting a goal, and your total belief that you can obtain it, starts a chain reaction of events that will lead you to your goal. Notice the words total belief, it is no good just saying the words, if deep down your subconscious is telling you , that you cannot do it.

This is the whole crux of the matter and you have to work on this. I talked about this in the article Build your vision slowly. Your subconscious is a very worthy foe, remember that he has won every encounter that you have ever had up to this point.

Although he is very willing to change, he is not going to give up his dominance easily. He will need to see things changing and accept that the information he has stored for you may actually be faulty. The only way that you can change his mind, is to show him by example, how different things can be.

Over time you will actually reprogramme your subconscious, and the amazing thing is that once you start giving him reason to change, he starts looking for things that he can bring to your attention for consideration. At this point you are on the verge of discovery, possibly for the first time in your life, a sense of calm starts to prevail in your head.

HAPPINESS

The state of mind you are now creating, is perfect for planting the seed of happiness. From this simple seed will grow ALL the answers to your problems and queries.

This is really just a very broad overview of some little ideas to help you GET IT. I do hope that they help. I will keep thinking of ways to relate this wonderful life changing phenomena, in basic easy to understand ways.

PROOF

People quite often ask me for proof as to how this works, I just tell them that they can prove it does not work for themselves. They then ask HOW, and I reply

“JUST DO NOTHING”

Too Busy Working To Earn Any Money

2010-04-13T00:10:00.000-07:00

We give mice in a cage a wheel to play on to amuse them, its called a treadmill. Politicians and successive governments have done exactly the same for us. We are all on a tread mill and it seems that if we stop things will go wrong, so we are conditioned to keep running and we are also taught that the faster we run the better things will be. We are not taught to think and plan we are not taught that what we are blindly chasing MAY NOT be what we really want we are not taught how to handle difficult situations we are not taught that family and friends are much more important than money and power and so the list goes on,basically keep your head down and your bum up keep plodding away and keep in line with all the others who are doing exactly the same.

MOST PEOPLE ARE TOO BUSY WORKING TO EARN ANY MONEY. What does this mean? it means that most contented and wealthy HAPPY people are not spending their time and energy earning enough to stand still, they are back from the pace and spend time looking at situations they can turn to thier advantage.Lets look at a person too busy to earn any real money. Take a self employed person he knows that he has commitments each week to fulfill
mortgage,rent,car payments,school fees,food,electricity,gas,fuel for the car,treats for the kids,super annuation,insurance,tax,accountants fees,stock,credit card fees,bank fees,clothes,club membership fees,[I was going to include beer and entertainment here but I want this to sound real] car rego, rates,lawn mowing man etc.. etc.. etc...He really has not got the pleasure of stopping and assesing his situation because if he does not keep going and paying all these bills he goes backwards and then he gets desperate and takes any work just to generate turnover. There is good work and bad work but our friend here will always jump at the bad work because he thinks that he will keep his head above water as long as he keeps money flowing through. At this point let me introduce you to a fact that you should learn and memorise THERE IS NO SHORTAGE OF WORK THERE IS AN ABUNDANCE OF WORK AND I SHOULD ONLY CHOOSE GOOD WORK.

Most people are thinking I am mad and have lost the plot, but consider this, How many times have you been beaten down on a price and taken work just because you need to have turnover, and then halfway through the job you realise that you are only going to break even, or even lose on the job. If you are honest I believe a good percentage of all self employed one man bands will have experienced this. The solution to this if you have been guilty of this in the past is to KNOW WHAT YOU OR YOUR SERVICES ARE WORTH and then only take work that rewards you sufficiently. Yes but what if I am not working flat out all the time, thats what a lot of you might be saying,but consider this, How many times have you been doing some work that you priced incorrectly and have had to turn away really creamy work because you are too busy? Most small businesses get into fierce competition and do jobs just to deprive others, this is a real no no because it plays into the hands of the contented and wealthy people, they can utilise this fear to beat down prices.

I think that the above indicates the point that we are all too busy too stressed too tired to really consider situations

A Cabbies Life

2010-04-08T00:41:00.000-07:00

A great story I heard the other day

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. It was a cowboy's life, a life for someone who wanted no boss. What I didn't realize was that it was also a ministry.

Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives. I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and weep.

But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night.

I was responding to a call from a small brick fourplex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some partiers, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town.

When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself. So I walked to the door and knocked.

"Just a minute," answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.

"It's nothing," I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated."

"Oh, you're such a good boy," she said.

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?"

"It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly.

"Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice."

I looked in the rearview mirror. Her eyes were glistening.

"I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long."

I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to take?" I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now."

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.

"Nothing," I said.

"You have to make a living," she answered.

"There are other passengers," I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

"You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said. "Thank you."

I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.

The Power

2010-04-04T00:39:00.000-07:00

It is funny , but laying day after day in hospital my mind kept wandering to the amazing array of cultures and religions that worked hand in hand to make things run smoothly. I then thought , Why if all this can work in harmony here, do we have so much animosity and anger in the real world?

One can only say that there are agendas and various activists that keep things in turmoil to furthur a cause.

There is no short term fix to this but let us just imagine for a while how different the world world be if we all agreed there is only one power

It's about time that we should be able to prove there is only one power. The fact that various people call the power by different names will never alter this fact. The various religious groups and cults that have worshipped this power for thousands of years, have in fact given it a bad name.

The fact that people go to war in the defence of their power is absolutely ludicrous. Why don't we all own up and draw a line in the sand and agree that there is really only one power. If all these different powers [Gods ] were actually there, do you suppose they would organise people to fight each other in their name. I very much doubt it, I should imagine that they would have some super dooper way of settling disagreements, if thats what they wanted. The fact that the one power is used to head up so many differing religions, must be really confusing to administrate. I suppose that is why the power does not take sides, it only gives everyone more of what they are thinking.

I personally feel that the power is for the use of the individual and when it is used by a group it tends to lose its true purpose.

Trying to say that your God is superior to my God is something that will never be settled. Have you ever taken time to study the varying major religions of the world? you will find that they are very similar in all they teach, they just seem to alter to suit various aspects of different cultures. Even the Christian Bible has some very aggressive solutions to some ancient problems. All the teachings thousands of years ago were safe, because the layman could not read or write, therefore the only message that could be broadcast, was what you decided to tell people.

The Bible itself was not written, until 400+ years after the death of Christ by an athiest, who saw it as a way to control the masses. I doubt if the guy who put the Bible together King Constantine realised, that sixteen hundred years after he had done it, there would be a world that had freedom of speech and access to information that was usually kept secret.

Obviously all the time there was control over the information and there were enough people to preach the various teachings, everything would hold together.

I really don't want to start a slanging match here, but I think that science has brought us to a point where we can make up our minds, as to the probability of various stories etc.. As I said before I firmly believe in the power and I really do not care what people decide to call it, I just think that there should be a movement towards a universal acceptance that there is only one power.

The sooner that we get onto this path the sooner that things will sort themselves out, and the world could actually live in harmony. Someones beliefs make no difference to me whether I get on with them or not, I judge people by who they are.

It is worth noting than none of the religions of the world put a different spin in any other universal law e.g. gravity,flight,vibration,attraction,magnetism,giving,receiving etc..etc..

I suggest that we all follow the path of LOVE, GRATITUDE, FORGIVENESS. The power does not discriminate, it only gives us exactly what we want. The problem is it has trouble working out exactly what we do want.

Until that time when we can truly confirm that there is only one power, MAY YOUR GOD GO WITH YOU.

Be Careful Who You Follow

2010-03-26T00:31:00.000-07:00

I think it is about time that we were totally honest with ourselves regards learning all the stuff that is available to make us rich, make us happy, make us more aware how to use the Law of Attraction etc. It seems we follow the really successful gurus who have made these teachings work for them and have had meteoric success from day one. Now although this is good sales publicity, it is not what happens for 99% of the people who try to learn.

We can also get sucked into following someone who has read a book and has the flair to create adverts and sales product to entice us into there fantastic new fail proof method.

What is the missing ingredient in both these examples? In the first instance if the person has had the fortune, once they lock in to the teachings, to have never had a backward step, or fallen off the horse, how can they help you if you fall off. In the second example, if the person is teaching you purely from what they have read, where will there knowledge and experience come from to help you get back on the horse, WHEN you fall off?

It is so important to realise that knowledge comes from experience and wisdom comes from observing and applying that knowledge over a period of time.

Why do so many people fail at incorporating these teachings?, one of the main reasons is that the people teaching them cannot identify with the person that has fallen off the horse.

Because there is no understanding of this scenario the person trying to learn gives up. It is no good telling them that they have fallen off because they did not follow the system correctly or that they did not understand the teachings.

I think that all the multimillionaire proponents of these teachings are fantastic and most of them, although money driven, do actually have the knowledge of how powerful these laws are.

One thing is for sure though, mere mortals WILL FALL OFF THE HORSE and unless the person guiding you has fallen off and got back on many times, how will they assist you to get back on.

I have made these teachings work for me and I have helped countless people over the years and I believe my main strength is understanding that you will keep hitting a brick wall and thinking that things are not working and you are doing something wrong.

Do not worry there is nothing wrong with you and these setbacks are all part of the journey. Fortunately knowing that they will occur and accepting them as part of the learning curve does help.

Every time you falter and then get back on track, will give you the strength to keep going. Each time you get started again gives you a greater understanding and each time you will not fall as far.

The purpose of this article is to let you know that you are normal if you do find these teachings difficult to learn and apply, and to make sure that you find someone to help you that has had experience in coping with the problems encountered on the journey to understanding.

Let me tell you that these teachings are really powerful, they do work but it does take time to learn and understand them.

I have rewritten the Science Of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles in Plain English and I would like you to have a copy free of charge, because the information contained in this book can change your life.

Every word in the book I have proved to be true and if you just follow the explicit instructions to the letter, you will attain Wealth and Happiness.

Just remember, you will fall off the horse and that is what happens to normal everyday people.

Bob Proctor is one of the greatest exponents of these teachings and has been doing this for 40 years yet out of the many thousands of people he has taught only a handful have really gone on to mega success.

Take heart from this. The fact that there have been successes proves the teachings work, the fact there are so few huge successes means that it requires a bit of commitment. What Bob has produced in abundance however is loads of people that have changed their lives for the better, but have just not had that extra little bit of belief and energy to get over the hill.

So if you want to change your life and are prepared to do the things stated in SOGR you will experience an amazing transformation, be warned though you will experience times when you want to give up and it is those people that work through these barriers with faith and belief, who will make these teachings work for them in extraordinary ways.

I wish you strength and commitment and I just know you will succeed!

Who Could I Be?

2010-03-20T00:29:00.000-07:00

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and ‘Who am I?’ is a question we should really ask ourselves. In fact “Who could I be?’ would be an even better one.

It seems, that we are exactly in life, at a position that we allow ourselves to reach. By this I mean that everything in your past has programmed you to accept and believe certain restraining influences.

There are some very obscure events and advice that actually have a profound effect on what decisions you make.

We are all guilty of buying books and CD’s that will teach us certain things and when we get them we subconsciously believe that this information, or the results that they promise are not actually for us.

We all look for information and advice that will move us forward and give us a better income, a better life, a better relationship or more money.

The problem is that all these things that we feel are lacking in our life are actually symptoms and until we address the cause of these problems nothing will change.

Everything that happens in your life is a result of an action that you take and that action is determined to a great extent on how you feel about yourself. Your image of your self worth or self esteem is the catalyst to everything that happens.

An example of this is that when you experience a little bit of success, your image of your self esteem rises and therefore you make decisions in line with that new found worth. That decision then leads on to another decision that moves you even further up the scale and so on. You see it has nothing to do with attracting it is all about you accepting who you are.

The better you feel about yourself the better decisions you make and so it goes on.

How many times have you seen successful people fall by the wayside? This is a classic example of someone changing their opinion of them self. Can this continue?, Am I worthy? The minute the self doubt creeps in the self esteem lowers and as sure as eggs are eggs things go into reverse.

Most of what we see and desire can be ours if we accept that we can achieve it. Ask yourself what most successful people have. When everything is stripped away you will find that they have a very high self worth and they have great self esteem. As mentioned previously this has a compound effect.

As I always say, success is a very intangible thing, and it is different things to different people. You can look at a celebrity and think they are successful, but you cannot ever start to judge until you have all the facts.

There was a tragic case recently where a beautiful young news reader took her life. On the surface she had everything, amazing looks, a boyfriend, a loving family , a great job, so what made her do it? I don’t know what was going through her head, but I can guarantee that she had a very low opinion of her self worth.

I read recently that the economy is created between your ears and that is so true. We can change our thoughts and change everything. The problem is though that those thoughts go back to our self worth and self esteem and we actually limit our expectations in line with our beliefs.

I believe that in the natural world we are given everything we need to survive, success comes from being aware of what is available and accepting things as they arrive. Most of us do not see opportunities because we do not believe that they are applicable to us, we therefore either do not see them or ignore them.

Over the next few days I will be trying to give you some information and asking some questions that will hopefully raise your self esteem and let you see a new self worth that will open the door to an exciting new adventure.

Lessons From a Storm

2010-03-14T00:24:00.000-08:00

Hi I have not written anything for ages and as many of you will know I am in the process of a major renovation on a house.

The last time we did a major, we rented a property and because it was short term we found it difficult to get one close and suitable. There fore we decided to camp out and live in the property as we worked on it.

There have been some pretty hairy moments, not least of all when the neighbours retaining wall collapsed as we dug footings for our own wall.

I can already hear some of you asking the relevance of this story and how it relates in any way to self development. Well I think that you will find the contents invaluable, if you are having any trouble at working out how to handle the truth versus appearance.

The weather in Perth has been very strange lately and there has been more rain than usual, infact the wettest August/September for some 50+ years.

Well on Friday we had to make a decision whether or not to risk taking the roof off to allow us to fix the new extension roof on, being brave warriors as we are, the decision was made and the roofing guys duly dismantled a major part of the original roof.

There were spasmodic showers but they kept working and at the end of the day they put a huge tarp over the now gaping hole.

The point of this whole story is to illustrate the way our minds will give us a rough ride if we put in the wrong information or start trying to solve problems that do not actually exist.

I don’t know if any of you can really conceive the noise a 10 metre x 10 metre tarp makes in a strong wind, the sailors amongst you will definitely identify, but suffice to say it is like a gun going off.

Many of my regular readers will know that for any situation that is troubling you I give a simple formula, ‘Have I done everything I can?’ and second ‘Is there anything else I can do?” If the answer is YES and NO, then forget it until it presents as a real situation.

I assure you, this situation was worrying me as a storm was predicted that night.

I then followed my own advice and made sure that I did everything that I could to ensure that there were no leaks and that the tarp was secure and hopefully would not blow away.

Now here is where the lesson comes in, when I was in sight and hearing distance of the hole and the enormous noise it was making, I was very conscious of what MIGHT happen and my mind was going into overdrive as I sat just waiting for the worst to happen.

I was solving all eventualities and to be perfectly honest I was getting a little concerned.

That was when Val said ‘Take some of your own advice’ and as teachers usually do I said “ Are but this is different” lol.

The more I thought about it though ,the more I realised that this was exactly a scenario that fitted the formula perfectly.

I had in fact done all I could and as far as I could see there was no more I could do. Staying in earshot and constantly mulling over worst case scenarios was actually not helping at all in fact it was the classic truth versus appearance. The truth was that although the wind and rain was pouring down and the tarp was making an awful noise, there was not actually any rain entering the house.

I then decided to move to another part of the house where I could not hear the awful noise and the sound of the wind and rain. I decided to deal with anything that occurred when and IF it occurred.

This simple task although difficult got me through the night with out a constant fear of what MIGHT happen.

This is no different to a situation that you may have that you are constantly allowing yourself to be involved and have constant reminders of it.

This formula works and as I have just explained it is not confined to relationships, family or work. It works everytime in any situation.

“Have I done every thing I can?” “Is there anything else I can do?” If the answer is Yes and NO in that order, then forget about it until it presents itself as a problem. In my experience 95% of the situations never actually transpire.

I hope that helps and I will keep you updated as to my progress.

Hey what’s that noise ? lol.

Where Do Good Kids Come From?

2010-03-10T00:22:00.000-08:00

I feel the urge to make comment on how we as adults view our role as parents. In todays world things seem so different and we tend to look back to the GOOD OLD DAYS to reflect. The endless summers, the warm balmy nights where the birds were singing, skipping along holding hands with our best friend, racing to get to school, the teacher standing at the front of the class telling us lovely stories, the snow that was always crisp and white, and never turned to slush etc… Yes you are right we all have selective memories regarding the past, and even trying to remember the bad things is difficult, because the hurt and anguish is diminished with time.

Things have really changed over the past 50 years and some really amazing discoveries have been made, that would have been regarded as impossible, when we were young. I think it is this selective memory and the fact that the world is a different place now, that has made it difficult to come to terms with the youth of today.

When I am talking to groups, I often get confronted with parents saying what they did when they were was the model for bringing up their children. How can this be? The world is a totally different place now and parents must adjust to make sense of the instructions they give their children. You cannot impose a rule based solely on that is what happened to you, it may have no relevance whatsoever in todays world.

One lady stood up recently and argued that she always walked to school and it did not do her any harm. On closer investigation we found out that her family did not have a car, so the fact of being taken to school in a car was never an option.

It is things like this that have to be factored into our understanding of the youth of today. When we were at school we had to learn things verbatim, because there was not an abundance of reference books, and the emphasis was put on ones ability to retain information. In todays schools they are taught to retrieve information, because it is all so accessible that there is no need to memorise bits that you have no use for.

As parents we also put so much emphasis on how our children turn out, the truth is that very little of what we do while they are growing up can be credited to how they turn out. We must understand that they are always going to do what they want to do as soon as the opportunity arises.

It makes sense then to try and get through the parenting years as easily as possible. The best education a child can have, is to be brought up in a loving family. We can teach better by example than trying to convince them of some obscure reason as to why they should do something.

It is best to be the person you want them to be. It is no good saying exercise more, if you spend your time flopping about on the couch. It is no good you displaying outrageous behaviour, and expecting your child to ignore it. Children are sponges and pick up everything that is said and done in the home. This then will be the information and programming that they will have to call on later in life.

There is no right or wrong way to bring up children, as the eternal debate about corporal punishment will testify. I certainly maintain that there must be strict guidelines that we have to impart, so that the family can live in harmony. It is strange that we have all created battlefields over tidy rooms and what time they get in, but have never sat down and talked about their views on anything. Most situations today because of the need for both parents to work are very tenuous, and therefore will take a lot of planning to try and impart YOUR views and behaviour to your children.

It is very strange that the media creates a lot of anxiety for parents, by reporting and sensationalising certain vicious crimes. We read about a child being attacked in a shopping mall and a whole industry is formed, action groups, parents making strict rules to govern their childs movements etc.. and yet young children DIE everyday as the result of drugs and parents do not even acknowledge the possibility that their child is taking drugs.

In summary I would say that we should all relax and just try and give the knowledge to our youth by our actions, and then they can do with it what they will.

Statistically successful children can come from “bad” homes and failures can come from “good” homes. It follows then that all we can do is to be the person we want them to be and let them do the rest. They will be their own person, but the reward is if you can see the knowledge you gave them being used.

The 'H' Words

2010-03-04T00:07:00.000-08:00

It is obviously a no brainer to decide which is the better state to be in Happy or Hate. I don't think that many of us really consider the other H word in all this, our health.

When we hate someone we give them power over us, they affect our sleep, our appetite, our blood pressure our health and our happiness.

Our enemies would be jumping for joy if they just knew what we were going through and how miserable we felt.Our hate is not actually harming them at all, but it is turning our days and nights into a really miserable existence.

There is an old saying that goes. "He who can anger you conquers you."

This is so true, we are going through hell wishing all those terrible things on them and they are blissfully unaware.

A recent survey has shown that most people with hypertension have admitted that they bear grudges and cannot forgive. Hypertension is a great cause of heart failure.

I know it doesn't sound fair does it, someone does the wrong thing by you, and by bearing a grudge you put your health at risk.

The simple solution is if someone does the wrong thing by you, instantly forgive them and let them see that you are not worried, this will totally confuse them and you can even have a little chuckle wondering what they make of it.

So whats the solution? do not buy into anger or hate just relax and realise that by just staying calm you are in fact looking after your health.

Make your default setting happiness and just see how your health and your life change.

Woe Is Me!!!!!

2010-02-24T00:06:00.000-08:00

One of the main things that happen when you are in the turmoil of a crisis is that you cannot see an end. You feel as though you have been singled out to be persecuted and then your mind wanders to every other situation in your life and you put the worst possible scenario outcome on them as well.

The obvious thing that happens then, is that you start making decisions based on fear and desperation, not an ideal state of mind to make important decisions.

Although things seem hopeless and you cannot see a solution, there always is an end to the situation and the more you relax the better the solution will be.

The universe will deliver exactly what you visualise. The trouble is that we seem to be brilliant at visualising defeat and failure and that is what gets delivered.

Why is it that we are so good at visualising negative thoughts? The reason is that the universe never falters and every time we think negative thoughts, that is what is delivered, so an accumulation of the results we get and the programming by others, gives us regular negative results.

I have found that we get to believe the world is against us because we get such regular results when thinking of bad outcomes, just imagine getting the results based on what we really want to achieve.

Just imagine what happens when you train your mind to be positive and believe the outcome? That is the key to a happy successful life.

Tip for today, whatever the situation, " You can always take control"

We Start To Live When We Are About To Die

2010-02-20T00:03:00.000-08:00

The most profound thing I have learnt is that most of us do not start living until we are told we are going to die. A very dear friend has got cancer and is on a very short countdown. It seems that if we are told we have only a while left to live, we start raking over things we have not done and regretting things that we should have done. I sort of had this together after my brother died unexpectedly a few years ago at age 53. We talked and it seemed very easy recalling our younger years, the time that he found emotional were the years of marriage and raising a family.

It seemed that all the things he regretted, were actually things that he could have done, had he just relaxed and not paid too much attention to the details and how things MAY turn out.

It seems we are all governed by caution, but in retrospect, in so many cases, that caution has stopped us doing what we really wanted to do. I think really it all comes down to allowing ourselves to be a little reckless sometimes.

If you really think about it, we spend so much time thinking about a Utopia in the future, that we actually forget to live in the now. So in effect we are willing to lose now, to strive to get to a place that we know nothing about. I say we know nothing about, and that is true, we know all the good things, but do not really consider the negatives involved. Will we arrive having lost all our friends?, because we ignored them, in an effort to earn enough money to get to Utopia. Will we have forgotten to relate and interact with our family?, because we intend to make everything OK when we arrive. Will we have become a bit of a bore ourselves?, in our effort to get to this unknown place. It is strange that we all tend to try and get to somewhere different, and always seem a little dissatisfied, where we are.

My philosophy, is that if we just tried to live in the now, and put more effort into now, instead of imagining that we can put the things we are missing on hold, maybe NOW will become the place you are looking for. The only way you can be truly happy in Utopia is if you have all the things you cherish with you. If you lose all these things on your way through, Utopia just becomes a very sad and lonely place.

As I have always said, I LOVE MONEY and all the things it allows me to do, but I do not think that it can do anything to make me happy. By that I mean, if you are miserable, getting a huge amount of money may settle some debt and buy you some treats, but in the long term, it will not make you happy. You will just become an unhappy person with money.

A real strange thing that I have discovered, is that when I am happy and relaxed, the money to do the things I want to do, just seems to arrive. It seems that if the intensity is removed, the flood gates open. If you chase anything it will take evasive action and resist getting caught. That goes for the opposite sex, money, possessions and anything else you would like to mention. So just try relaxing and see what happens.

Make your life now as good as you can, cherish your family and friends, help others less fortunate, have a vision and dream, but get there with everything intact. If you do this, you will be happy all along the journey and most important wherever you get to will be the right place.

Have you really ever considered, that there are lots of people that would regard your life as Utopia.

As much as possible do the things that you want to do now.

Something else that has become very clear to me over the last few weeks, is the fact that you really cannot give without getting a return. Please do not read into that, that I ever give with the expectations of a return, but while I have been organising the talks, people have shown such kindness, and also displayed hidden talents that have really amazed me. In a lot of cases, when I have asked them what I owe them, they say “That’s OK” you did so and so for me years ago. It has been really humbling, and it is nice to get real life proof, relating to these universal laws.

Another thing that is becoming evermore clear on a daily basis, is the stress and pressure we work and live under, and just accept it as normal. Since totally removing myself from the normal workforce, I have been shocked to the feelings I get, when I walk back into places I used to visit regularly in the course of my business. They actually have a feeling of stress in the air, the worry is that when you are stressed to the same level, you do not notice any difference. How different life is when you actually step back from things and really assess what is going on.

I had already called my talk, De-Stress for Success before these things had truly registered, and now with all these real life experiences to call on, I have virtually changed the whole structure of the talk. One good thing, the talk is now based entirely on life experience and not , what I thought was going on. It was pretty close, but this new evidence is scary.

Well I hope there is a little something in this update that will ring some bells. In the meantime get working on your life NOW not on an imagined one in the future.

Eureka

2010-02-14T23:56:00.000-08:00

I am writing this as a follow up to my original article It’s Natural to Wonder.

Briefly I made the analogy of a doctor giving you a placebo, and telling you what it would do for you, and your mind accepting this information without question and therefore getting your body to repair itself.

This indicated how powerful the mind is, if you do not cloud the acceptance of information with doubt or the need to know EXACTLY how things are going to work.

I think we have made a very powerful case as to the extraordinary ability of our mind to do things and create situations that we may not fully understand.

Many people have questioned Wallys advice to just read his book until you are fully conversant and accept his teachings. I always thought this was a good idea, but the relevance of it eluded me until now.

If you had a stomach ache and 10 different doctors all tried to convince you that their placebo would cure your stomach ache, your mind would be in turmoil. Although all the doctors were telling you that there one was the best one for the job, your mind would be in turmoil at having to make the choice and the result would be that you would not actually have faith in any of them, even though you desperately wanted to get rid of your stomach ache.If you chose to accept all the placebos, your mind would go into total meltdown, trying to assimilate all the different reasons given.

This is the same as all the various ways people are trying to teach at the moment, they have all got the same point they want to get across but they all have their own unique way to present it.

Result, the mind creates doubt because there is not one stable goal or destination. What happens then is that we just keep trying to absorb all the various methods and end up getting nowhere.

My suggestion to you all, is to do exactly as Wally says and stick to one teacher, until you really understand and become comfortable with that method. Once you have experienced and know what happens and how to control your destiny, research as much as you like.

Obviously because of the amazing results and experiences I have had as a result of SOGR, I would recommend that as the only map you need, to plan your future health, wealth and happiness.

I sincerely hope this clarifies the situation.

Some Straight Talking

2010-02-09T23:54:00.000-08:00

Where are we all heading? I do not know about you but the World seems a pretty crazy place at the moment. So much is happening and so much is changing. Things were pretty constant for thousands of years with only slight changes along the way, and of course natural evolution. Now things are happening so quickly that we have no time to adjust. We have entered a World that is like a treadmill, we are all taught that everything will be alright as long as we get the demon dollar. The problem is that we assume that all the bits we ignored in the pursuit of money will sort themselves out. WRONG! Life is very unfair in that department , it is like an hour glass. The grains of sand on the bottom are the past, and however much you prod them, they are gone. The grains of sand in the top are the future and you have no control how they will pass through the neck. The grains actually falling through the neck, are the present, but we only have control over them, for a very short while and if we do not use them, they are gone forever. The grains that have gone through, are gone forever, that relates to the time, that you have ignored your family, ignored your friends, and worst of all ignored yourself.

Happiness and contentment,are all a state of mind, and if you are at peace with yourself ,the money that you get will assist in doing things that you enjoy, it will not guarantee Happiness. How many stories do you hear about people living in huge houses who are not happy, and how many feelgood stories do we hear about people with very modest means, who are really happy. At this point you will say that there is a connection then between money and happiness, to a certain extent you are right. We hear through life sayings such as, Filthy rich, Stinking rich, The rich are bad, Money does not buy happiness etc., all these have one purpose, and that is, that if you fail in life, or consider yourself unsuccessful, you can in a quirky kind of way justify your failure, by saying you did not want to be like the rich anyway..

Admittedly, a vast number of people who obtain wealth, at the expense of enjoying life on the way through, do end up miserable. The secret then, must be to have a plan, so that you can have a goal, to attain wealth and security, but also smell the roses on the way through. The great thing about obtaining happiness and contentment is, it allows you, to set your own targets. As long as you are at peace with yourself, then you know how much money you need, and also you have your own definition of success. Most problems are caused because we are trying to impress others, when we are at peace with ourselves, we do not need to worry about what other people think.

Happiness is not a one size fits all state of mind, obviously we all have secret dreams, and they will vary, based on the information and events we have experienced in the past. The secret is to really think deep and say, "Am I doing the things I am doing to make me happy?" or "Am I doing them to impress others?" "Am I doing them to provide for my family"? or any other reason that is different to making you happy. We have to be very honest here, because every thing depends on your answer.

Assuming that you have said that you are not doing what you are doing to make you happy, we had better look at ways to alter your thinking.

So many people work at the expense of their life and also their family. Why on earth would you want to work ignoring all the good things on the way through? As we said earlier there is no way you can recapture lost time. The best you can hope for when you finally think you have enough, is to live in a house with a group of people you do not know. That’s a great reward isn’t it!.
For the records I think that an ample flow of money is essential to a happy life, and I have no qualms about people getting huge amounts of money, provided that they ENJOY it. The silly thing is that many people who I have mentored in the past, have found that they make more money once they lock into being happy. They find that decisions are easier to make, they realise that it is better to be creative rather than competitive, they realise that there is an abundance of everything and it will come to them once they have a goal that is structured to make them happy.

The choices we have then appear to be[a] Carry on as we are, stressed out, no family life, no real down time to enjoy ourselves and a competitive frame of mind equating to dog eat dog etc.. or [b] A balanced life, with ample time for family and friends, a stress free outlook on life and a goal that includes you as a happy person with time to spare. That seems like a no brainer to me. So why do most of us get stressed out and keep on the treadmill day after day, convinced that when we get all this money we will be able to put everything right.

How many people do you know who are stressed? I suspect we all know plenty, and that will only be the ones that talk about it. So many people bottle up their emotions because they have been brought up to think that it is weak to admit that you cannot cope. Once again trying to do things to impress others has caused the problem. The strange thing is that once you pluck up the courage to talk about your problems, things seem instantly better. Most of our stress is caused by something I have named "circular thought". This is the situation of us trying to solve things that do not exist. We have all done it, we have a situation and we try and work out," what would happen IF", and then we say,"IF this happens what will I do" and we keep second guessing what might happen. As the problem does not actually exist , how on earth can we solve it? The funny thing then is that we cross refer these imagined scenarios and all of a sudden we are in a real pickle, trying to solve a mish mash of circumstances that only exist in our head. No wonder we cannot think straight. For some people this state of stress is commonplace and they accept it as the norm.

During some of my mentoring classes I send people to Worry Free Island for two days, so that they can de stress themselves. This is a place where your imagination can do some remarkable things.

When people take the time to stop and take stock of their lives, they nearly always agree that they would like to do things differently, but they are conditioned into the mode that is causing the grief. At this point you must realise that with very little effort you can reprogramme your thinking to a totally new life

Thoughts On Thoughts

2010-02-04T23:52:00.000-08:00

Your thoughts are so powerful and if we ensure that what we think is positive, only positive things will happen. When I first experimented with this theory, I was shocked at the amount of things that happened, that were beyond the odds of chance. Little things that I used to call a coincidence, I now realised were being manifested by my thoughts. People that I had to contact, miraculously, out of the blue, called me, everything seemed to align itself into an easy effortless ride.

It was because these seemingly unconnected things kept happening, I decided to test the theory even further. I knew I felt better, through giving thanks and gratitude on a daily basis and I felt sure, that bigger things should be possible to manifest. I wrote out a list of things that I wanted to achieve, including some quite high ticket items.

When I did my daily gratitude list, I also said thank you, for the things I felt sure were coming my way. I imagined my life with these things already there, I was not sure at this time, as to how these things were going to be paid for, but I just had this feeling that what ever the power was, it would organise everything.

During the next few months things were very up and down, and I noticed that when things were down, if I allowed myself to be negative, they seemed to get worse. When I was in a negative frame of mind , I conciously put out positive thoughts with my preferred outcome. Slowly things seemed to come back into line. It became obvious that the more positive and happy I was, the better things went. It may sound crazy, but I knew that the more positive I was, the more likely it was that my wish list would become reality. Over a period of approximately 2 years things just went amazingly well, I created a property portfolio and shared these findings with others.

All the vast array of things I had read, and the different slants that people had put on the same message, came together in my own unique formula. I started to share my experiences with others and in most cases people found that their lives felt better.

The hardest thing for people to grasp, was the fact that you had to believe, that the things you wanted would eventually come to you. Over many years I have lived by these new rules and I can only say, I wish I had discovered them earlier in my life. I do not know what this power is, I only know that we should all search for it, and when we find it, we should make it our best friend.

2010-01-27T23:51:00.000-08:00

I am writing this as a result of many emails lately commenting on the fact that things were not going according to plan for them.

With the vast amount of interest in LOA and associated subjects lately, it seems that there is more confusion than answers. One of the things that seems to be so prominent, is the fact that everyone has gone into COMPETITIVE mode. This is one of the main teachings of Wally, he states quite clearly that you should be CREATIVE not COMPETITIVE. Every time we force an issue whether it be financial , emotional, relationship or absolutely anything, we are subconsciously going into COMPETITIVE mode.

I think that we should all just take a deep breath and have a look at the situation as it is now. I am thrilled that there is a huge wave of interest in these teachings and that so many more people are becoming aware. The problem I have is that no one seems to be telling people about the hard work needed to really understand these teachings and make them work for you.

I used the analogy recently of a gym selling the services of a personal trainer. If they said to you, that the next 8 weeks are going to be really hard, you are going to feel absolutely terrible every morning, your body will ache, how ever you feel we are going to drag you out of bed at 6.00 oclock, your muscles are going to burn, we are going to push you harder than you have ever been pushed and when you feel that you have had enough, we are going to raise the bar and push you even harder, etc… You really would think about signing up. When you are in possession of all the facts you can make a calculated decision. Of course the really COMMITED people would sign up and really benefit, but a vast majority would THINK about it.

That is why when you are making your decision whether or not to use a personal trainer, they only tell you about the benefits. You will look and feel fabulous, “Oh great where do I sign?” It is later that you realise the effort needed and many people fall by the wayside, they are not prepared for the hard work to get to the target. That is the same as the sales and implied benefits of these teachings, no one is telling the truth up front as to what is really involved to understand and learn these teachings.

I can honestly tell you that these teachings when applied correctly and with the knowledge as to how they work, are life changing. The learning curve though is anything but easy. Most people do not realise that their conscious mind does not actually make any decisions, that is all done by the past programming that is stored in your subconscious. Therefore however convinced your mind is about doing something, your subconscious always has something to say. Sometimes you do something against what your subconscious advises and all of a sudden you get a queasy stomach and fell very uneasy. It does not matter if what you do is absolutely correct, if your old programming disagrees you will have conflict.

It makes sense then that we should look at our OLD beliefs and see if they have relevance in our lives today. If they do not, we have to WORK on removing them. That is the hard work that is just the beginning of really understanding. How many times have you started to do something or had an idea and the little voice in your head says, “Don’t be silly, how can you do that , you are just SO and SO from the wrong side of the track, just forget it and get on with things.” We all have and they are just ideas and incorrect facts that have been planted over your life to keep you in line. There are so many things that we believe or have been told, that are just not true. Why then do we still listen to them when we are making a decision?

This is one of the fundamental problems with all these new teaching ideas. They tell you to imagine this or that and dream of some fantastic lifestyle in the future and you can have it just by thinking. That is exactly when your subconscious comes in and tells you all the reasons why you cannot do or have what you are thinking. As I said earlier, the facts are that you CAN have what you want, but you must believe that you can have it and also be sure that it is what you want.

As an exercise just dig deep and find some of the things that your subconscious uses to hold you back, that you know not to be true.

Next time we will have some exercises to find and remove these blockages.

Croz

Here is something that you can think about: it wraps up competition and old programming in one statement.

Why is it that if someone who you do not know has good fortune or someone wealthy gets more wealth, we do not seem to care. But if someone we know, especially someone who is on the same social standing as us gets sudden wealth, either by their business or if they win it, we seem to be jealous and are not immediately happy for them.? Be honest when thinking about this!

When your mind is correctly programmed you will not even think about that situation.

The only time to pay attention to any ones wealth, is if they offer to share it with you. At that point be very attentive.

It's Possible But It Ain't Easy

2010-01-22T23:47:00.000-08:00

It is so exciting to have the teachings of Wallace all of a sudden becoming mainstream and being brought to millions more people.

Just as an observation, I would like to say to everyone, DO NOT GET CARRIED AWAY.

I have seen the all the TV shows and it is good that SOGR principles are being discussed. The problem as I see it, is that it is being presented as something that you JUST DO and everything will happen.

This is a double edged sword. If millions of people think that with no study and no guidance on how to control their thoughts and help to go through the very real testing times,what successes will result?

As most of you know, there are times when it all seems too hard and we fall off the horse. It takes time to actually get your faith and belief firmly established. That is the REAL SECRET, once you realise the power and get your faith working with you EVERYTHING falls into place.

Although all the so called experts seem to have experienced great happenings, they,in certain instances imply that all you have to do is think and it will happen. We all know different and that is that sometimes we think we are focused, but our main thought subliminally is something else, or even doubt.

Both of these situations will negate your thought.

What I am trying to say is that, I am glad that these teachings have been brought to the attention of the masses, but the way to handle and control them should not be trivialised.

I feel that the study behind the apparent simplistic approach should be mentioned, so that this wave of euphoria does not do more harm than good.

It is like selling a toy without any instructions, if you are lucky enough to know how it works fine, but if you do not know how to make it work, will you say, it does not work?

I have got so much out of these teachings and I continue to get fantastic results at my seminars and classes, but I see first hand the importance of support.

The other thing to consider is that Wallace says, stick to his teachings until you GET IT, do not confuse yourself by trying to follow loads of different methods. Just choose one and stay with it.

At the moment we are being bombarded with the views of many people with different ways of looking at and teaching the same lessons. This in itself will create more confusion.

My advice, once you are experiencing the results you require, you can then read and follow anything or anyone without getting confused

Why Do We Need Families?

2010-01-18T23:50:00.000-08:00

Why is it that we humans have rearranged the natural ways to such an extent that we make things more difficult.

In nature the old impart knowledge and guidance to the young. With humans nine times out of ten the young and old cannot even communicate, yes they talk, but are they communicating, there is a difference.

Many years ago families were a much tighter knit body and normally the son followed Dad into his occupation, and the daughters were taught the domestic things by Mum.

The young accepted the advice and knowledge without question and consequently could avoid a lot of the things that crop up while we are growing up. Of course there was still the exuberance of youth, and kids would rebel and do things that they regarded as research, to prove if Dad and Mum really knew that what they were saying was correct.

Whether that system was right or wrong, it did have structure and it generally produced young adults that could leave the nest and at least cope.

Because of the need for both parents, generally having to work flat out, just to standstill, it has fragmented the family group and structure that evolved over thousands of year.

Sitting down together as a family is becoming a rare event.

It was the family unit that taught our kids all sorts of things, in the best possible way, by example. I am not saying that life was perfect in those days, far from it, but it was more encompassing and everyone felt a bit more secure. It was the norm that Mum was at home when you got in from school.

As families needed more income to afford all the new appliances and labour saving devices, we saw the advent of the ‘latch key kid ‘ I clearly remember going home with a mate and him getting the key hanging inside the letter box.[ For our friends in other places, the letterbox was in the front door]

I am in no way advocating a return to these [selective memory ] idyllic days, but I do think that we should accept things as they are, and try to find a way to communicate between the young and the old.

Things are changing at such a rate and it is no wonder that our kids are confused, it makes sense then to try and find some common ground, that we can all identify with, and use that as a foundation to try and really establish some lines of genuine communication.

This simple action would sort out an awful lot of problems

A Sad Loss

2010-01-12T23:46:00.000-08:00

OBITUARY

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape.

He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as knowing when to come in out of the rain, why the early bird gets the worm, life isn't always fair, and maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you earn) and reliable parenting strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a six-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job they themselves failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.

It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer Panadol, sun lotion or a Band Aid to a student , but could not inform the parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the Ten commandments became contraband, churches became businesses, and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust;his wife, Discretion; his daughter, responsibility; and his son,Reason.He is survived by three stepbrothers; I Know My Rights, Someone Else is to Blame, and I'm A Victim.

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.

It's So Clear When You Don't Have A Choice

2010-01-06T23:42:00.000-08:00

We see everyday superhuman efforts by people, the miners trapped under ground for two weeks in Tasmania, the guy who was trapped in a landslide at Thredbo and had his wife die next to him, what gave these people the strength to endure these horrific situations? The power of their mind. They kept a vision of being rescued and what was going to happen in the future, it was this vision and the belief and faith in their vision that got them through. Because of their absolute vision and their belief they got through and were eventually rescued.

These short term visions and the faith are so powerful yet we do not use them in our day to day life.

We would much rather muddle along stressing out and bulldozing our way through, when all we need to do is stop take a breath and visualize our situation and paint the picture and an outcome that suits us.

Before you get carried away, this is not easy. Doing it and getting small results will give you the belief. However if you are not in total belief and ready to receive, things will not work out. The reason being you are not giving a clear signal and the Universe will not know exactly what you want, and therefore will be unable to help.

The reason that the people that were trapped in life threatening situations, were so clear in their wants, is purely and simply they had no alternatives. That is a great way of focusing the mind.

It is similar to giving sweets to the kids. Say you had four children and four different chocolate bars, they draw lots and get to choose the bar of their choice. For the first three children this is a real problem because they have a choice, as soon as they have chosen they start having doubts as to whether this was the best bar to take, it becomes easier as the bars disappear, but for the final kid there is no choice, and no doubt, because he has not got to think, the others have done all the work. The final child had no choices therefore it was easy for him, but he may not have received the bar of his preference.

We have more choices if we just focus and believe NOW.

Remember we do not have to draw lots to decide when it is our turn to choose, but as with the chocolate bars if you procrastinate your choices start disappearing. Most people leave focusing and creating a positive vision too late. They wait until they have no choice. At any time the first kid could have changed his mind before selecting, but at some point he had to make his decision. Providing that he has given it full consideration he will have no regrets, but if he has selected without any thought he will be wondering if he had made the right selection and these are the confused signals that we send out when we are not clear as to what we want.

It Really Is Quite Amazing

2009-12-14T23:15:00.000-08:00

It really is quite amazing that most people do not ask for help, or look to alternative remedies until they bottom out. It seems that the biggest changes in our lives, stem from these periods when we feel depressed, stressed, or lost. Would it not be a good idea to try and find a better way to do things and possibly gain control of your life when you are in a state of calm?

Most people consider the law of attraction is a thing that only off the wall crazy people believe in. This is sad because if more people studied this fundamental scientific law, and realised the fantastic difference it can make to your everyday life, the world, and they would be in much better shape.

I am at a loss to understand why the basic principles of the law of attraction are not taught in our schools. It is non religious, it teaches a perfect role model for life, it enables us to take control of our lives, both in relationships and also with the aquisition of wealth. In its most basic form it states that like will attract like. How simple can it get?, you are a good person, you attract good things, you are a bad person you will attract bad things. Our emotions are also sending out signals, if you are moody you attract that into your life, if you are happy you just keep getting happier. It is ironic that this simple principle has caused the stress and depression that initially sends you out in search of it.

There is more than enough scientific evidence to prove the existence of this basic law, and a quick search of the internet will reveal pages of data that can explain the scientific principles much better than me. I however have lived for the past 10 years using the law of attraction as a major part of my thinking, and in conjunction with the ability to be grateful for everything and the desire to forgive everyone, I have enjoyed the biggest change in my entire life.

When people say to me,"How can you believe that old mumbo jumbo?" I say that there are things that I find more difficult to believe,that we all just accept as normal. I still get amazed that we can watch something happen thousands of miles away on a screen in our living room. How are these pictures carried? correct, they are vibrational waves of energy. How do we find it difficult then to follow that our brain is emitting vibrational signals all the time, these signals then activate a corresponding signal wherever it may be and sends it back to us.

This is why you have to make sure that you send out the right signals. It is impossible for an unhappy signal, to find a happy signal, because it is resonating at a different frequency. How simple is that?

Ok so now you have the absolute basic principles, how about giving it a little test run? Think of a car, any make and any colour, firmly fix the image in your mind and say to your self that you want to see as many of these cars as you can.Keep the vision and the desire to see this car in your mind.You will eventually lose count of how many you see, and even when you want the experiment to stop, you will keep seeing them. Of course there are no more of this car on the road, you have just sent out a vibrational match and the law of attraction is off and running. There are lots of other simple tests that you can do.

The real bell ringer here though, is the attraction is not limited by size. therefore provided that you believe that what you concentrate on will manifest itself, you can relax knowing that your positive thoughts are out there linking up with an exact match. There are some technical glitches however, if you create doubts about your vision, that then becomes a negative and it will obviously negate your positive thought.

If your vision is of something of great proportion you can rest assured that things are being activated in the creation it. The only real principle is that you must believe and keep that belief for as long as it takes. In my classes I always get the person who trys to poo poo the teaching by saying that they have thought about something and it did not happen, the trouble is that they are not sending out positive signals, they are sending out doubt and they are being rewarded with plenty more.

The results of this will depend entirely on how strongly you desire your vision and the fact that you 100% believe that it will eventually appear.

This is obviously simplified to extreme levels, but it hopefully helps to explain the power of this universal law.