F**K The Banks

YOU cannot Fail. It's The Other You

I have a really off the wall thought for you today.

Having gone back over some clients files recently for some research and ideas I have come up with a rather interesting fact, it appeared that most peoples problems and worries came when they were not 'just being themselves'.

Let me explain, we all at some time or other aspire to be famous, or talented, or clever, or funny, you get the idea. Well what do we immediately do in most cases? we look at someone who is already what we want to be and attempt to copy them.

There are also times when we are doing things in our life that are what someone else wants us to do, for example studying a certain subject or profession at uni, or doing things to make other people happy, that are not a natural fit with our desires.

If you notice all these situations are NOT US BEING US, they are us being or doing something that is not a natural fit. Therefore we cannot ever be totally relaxed because we are not doing what comes naturally.

If you wanted to be a famous actor, would there be any benefit in copying someone who is already successful, of course not, because how ever good you became at copying them , the best you could ever hope to be is second best or a copy of someone else.

You must also consider the extra pressure on you because of the fact that you cannot relax, because you are not being you.

So my observation is this, What ever you want to be or do, make sure that you do it BEING YOU.

If you are always being you and doing things that you want to do, you cannot fail, because you are the original.

Instead of spending too much time looking at people and wanting to be like them, just spend a little time making you the person YOU want to be and everything else will fall into place.

This does not of course say don't admire people, but I am saying do not copy people. Who knows if you just start being you, the real you maybe a much better person than the person you admire.

If we do just concentrate on being us, it also lets our natural programme of success shine through.

So today's little task is to look in the mirror and start to really like the person you see and let him/her start living a relaxed natural life to success

I WILL

Have you ever wondered why some people can do extraordinary things or apparently make successes of every part of their life? The simple answer is, because they think they can.

It is strange how people look everywhere else , other than inside their own mind, to find the solutions and answers to their situations.

The simple fact is that you can always do, what you think you can do. Unfortunately this is a double edged sword, because it allows us to think that we cannot do something.

The internal part of us, that tells us what we are not, capable of is called the WILL and it is your obedient servant, like wise the internal power that tells us what we are capable of is also called the WILL.

The same part of your mind is controlling your entire life good and bad. It is therefore preferable to use it to achieve things you want rather than to use it to avoid doing things.

The WILL is recognised in general speech and has various sayings linked with it to illustrate its power.

When a child misbehaves and there is absolutely nothing you can do to control it ,we tend to say, it is strong willed, or if someone chooses to do something that we initially think might be challenging, we say, “Where theres a WILL theres a way.” So even in just those two examples we have indicated the good and the bad capabilities of our WILL.

Most people do not fully develop their WILL and when they do use it, they use it to stop them doing things and create excuses that their WILL confirms are true.

Your WILL is the most important part of your mind when it comes to success, because it makes a prophecy of what you can achieve, if you start to work with your Will and make it your friend and start believing ,the things it tells you that you can do, the better.

It is possible that you will have visions and ideas that you firmly believe you can achieve , that never eventuate or materialise, that is because the WILL and WILL POWER are two separate things.

It is no earthly good, you convincing yourself that you can do something and then waiting, until the climate is right, or until things change a bit, or until you can work out exactly how things will happen etc.. If you need all these things to align, there will never be right time.

This is where you need the action and this is the WILL POWER, the power to drive the WILL.

If you continually keep giving reasons why you cannot do things, or believe that you can achieve something, but are going to wait until the time is right, you will start to create a culture of accepted failure and this is a real demon to exorcise . When we keep accepting our failures or not acting on our beliefs , we lose hope and confidence and when we lose those two things we have lost everything.

The great thing though is that your WILL is always there and it does not matter where you are in life or how low you feel, he will come to your aid and allow you to map out your future, provided that you are prepared to take advantage of his power, and give yourself a kick up the butt and pledge to action your thoughts.

The Will is your self originating force and no one else has any control over it, so once you decide to use it to create success and as I said, pledge to take action, nothing can stop you.

We have discussed before that a major thing that stops you starting, is trying to get to your destination in one leap. Identify with the fact that everyone who is where you want to be, has been in a similar situation to you, or has at least had to travel their own journey.

Do not settle for less than you are capable, whether your capabilities lie in creating something, helping others, being a good provider for your family, being a great parent, being a painter or an author or absolutely anything that you desire, just know that once you have the WILL you will definitely find the way.

Lessons From The Past

It was not until I turned 50 and looked back at my life, that all the things that I learnt at that time made sense. I could see exactly what had caused my very eventful life and knowing what I know now would have changed so much. I am not looking back with any regrets, far from it, but I do know that the information I have got and the wisdom I have gained from making mistakes [failing] is so valuable.

Why do people readily go to others to learn a myriad of disciplines and skills, but when it comes to life, they ignore people who have lived a life and in many cases do not even bother to ask. Even someone who has lived a very basic life will have an enormous amount of information on different problems.

The thing is though that you must have faith in the person you ask, because they may have gone through life just making out that they had achieved all they were capable of, so that information, may not be all that helpful. It is not until you really put yourself out there and are prepared to make mistakes in the search of your goal, that you really learn.

One of my success exercises, is to try and fail 10 times in a row. Believe it or not that is virtually impossible. Therefore success is always borne out of failure. So my advice is to fail as often and as quick as you can. Make sure though that all your attempts are leading you towards your goal. Do not set out to fail, that would be stupid, but do not let failure keep you down, failures, really are the stepping stones to success.

It seems in todays world we spend less time teaching our youth the basics of a successful life than we do teaching them the capital cities of various countries or the major rivers of the world. In a society that now has access to virtually every bit of art, knowledge, music, books etc., at the push of a button, do you not think that some time should be spent learning lifes intricacies from someone who has travelled the road so that the peaks and troughs of the journey make some sense.

We wonder why we get confused, but as things change so quickly we tend to think that we need different information to deal with them. The information in truwords is timeless and infact the only art is taking the information and putting it in a way that is easily digestable.

Every bit of information you could possibly want is, as I said readily available, so why do you need a programme like truwords. The simple answer is that when you stumble across something that you do not understand, you will grasp things 100 times better if you have someone to answer questions and put you back on the track.

How To Eat An Elephant

GETTING STARTED

The biggest problem with anything is starting, and if you look at the entire task, it will depress you before you even start. As I have said before, this is no different than eating an elephant. If you contemplate eating it in one mouthful, you obviously will never attempt it, if however you make the decision to do it one bite at a time, it does not even look like a task at all.

As you look at this scenario initially you can see the solution but if you keep looking at how much of the elephant is left, or how far you have to go, most people will give up after a very short time.

This is one of my little secrets, hide the elephant, and just realise that every mouthful is taking you nearer to your destination. The bottom line is, that it ain’t easy, but it is possible for everyone to do it, once they have committed and realised that there is some work to do.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Once you have committed you must accept that you are 100% responsible for your life. How many of you blame everyone else when things go wrong, we never seem to put ourselves in any part of the reason why. It is always something else or someone elses fault.

I suggest that before you even try to make sense of all this, you keep repeating that you are in total control and the decisions that you make will be your responsibility.

Instead of asking yourself “Why did this happen” ask yourself “How can I change it or improve it.” When we get really low we ask ourselves “What is wrong with me” and your brain dashes around finding answers to that question, and more often than not, they are not things that you want to hear. This then sends you into a negative frame of mind, and our dear friend the law of attraction starts bringing you lots more negativity.

CLIMBING BACK

At this point think back over the last five years to something really terrible that has happened to you, even now it will not appear so bad, because time eases our memory.

Try and find out what you learnt from that experience, what positive can you draw from it? Try and remember how you felt and how you just got more and more depressed, attracting exactly the same as you were putting out.

Slowly as things changed and you moved on, you started climbing back up the ladder, and as you slowly started to be a bit happier, things got back on track, and the more you tried to get on with your life, the more things aligned to make it better.

This illustrates the power that we all possess to control things, once we make the decision to move on, everything changes. I never forget a line that Rebecca put in her SOGR course. “One day we will laugh about this, Why don’t we laugh about it now?”

OPPORTUNITY

One thing that I will make perfectly clear, we all have the equipment to make this work, unfortunately some people because of previous programming refuse to believe that, and they get their mind to agree with them, as to why thy cannot do it.

The simple act of just setting a goal, and your total belief that you can obtain it, starts a chain reaction of events that will lead you to your goal. Notice the words total belief, it is no good just saying the words, if deep down your subconscious is telling you , that you cannot do it.

This is the whole crux of the matter and you have to work on this. I talked about this in the article Build your vision slowly. Your subconscious is a very worthy foe, remember that he has won every encounter that you have ever had up to this point.

Although he is very willing to change, he is not going to give up his dominance easily. He will need to see things changing and accept that the information he has stored for you may actually be faulty. The only way that you can change his mind, is to show him by example, how different things can be.

Over time you will actually reprogramme your subconscious, and the amazing thing is that once you start giving him reason to change, he starts looking for things that he can bring to your attention for consideration. At this point you are on the verge of discovery, possibly for the first time in your life, a sense of calm starts to prevail in your head.

HAPPINESS

The state of mind you are now creating, is perfect for planting the seed of happiness. From this simple seed will grow ALL the answers to your problems and queries.

This is really just a very broad overview of some little ideas to help you GET IT. I do hope that they help. I will keep thinking of ways to relate this wonderful life changing phenomena, in basic easy to understand ways.

PROOF

People quite often ask me for proof as to how this works, I just tell them that they can prove it does not work for themselves. They then ask HOW, and I reply

“JUST DO NOTHING”

Too Busy Working To Earn Any Money

We give mice in a cage a wheel to play on to amuse them, its called a treadmill. Politicians and successive governments have done exactly the same for us. We are all on a tread mill and it seems that if we stop things will go wrong, so we are conditioned to keep running and we are also taught that the faster we run the better things will be. We are not taught to think and plan we are not taught that what we are blindly chasing MAY NOT be what we really want we are not taught how to handle difficult situations we are not taught that family and friends are much more important than money and power and so the list goes on,basically keep your head down and your bum up keep plodding away and keep in line with all the others who are doing exactly the same.

MOST PEOPLE ARE TOO BUSY WORKING TO EARN ANY MONEY. What does this mean? it means that most contented and wealthy HAPPY people are not spending their time and energy earning enough to stand still, they are back from the pace and spend time looking at situations they can turn to thier advantage.Lets look at a person too busy to earn any real money. Take a self employed person he knows that he has commitments each week to fulfill
mortgage,rent,car payments,school fees,food,electricity,gas,fuel for the car,treats for the kids,super annuation,insurance,tax,accountants fees,stock,credit card fees,bank fees,clothes,club membership fees,[I was going to include beer and entertainment here but I want this to sound real] car rego, rates,lawn mowing man etc.. etc.. etc...He really has not got the pleasure of stopping and assesing his situation because if he does not keep going and paying all these bills he goes backwards and then he gets desperate and takes any work just to generate turnover. There is good work and bad work but our friend here will always jump at the bad work because he thinks that he will keep his head above water as long as he keeps money flowing through. At this point let me introduce you to a fact that you should learn and memorise THERE IS NO SHORTAGE OF WORK THERE IS AN ABUNDANCE OF WORK AND I SHOULD ONLY CHOOSE GOOD WORK.


Most people are thinking I am mad and have lost the plot, but consider this, How many times have you been beaten down on a price and taken work just because you need to have turnover, and then halfway through the job you realise that you are only going to break even, or even lose on the job. If you are honest I believe a good percentage of all self employed one man bands will have experienced this. The solution to this if you have been guilty of this in the past is to KNOW WHAT YOU OR YOUR SERVICES ARE WORTH and then only take work that rewards you sufficiently. Yes but what if I am not working flat out all the time, thats what a lot of you might be saying,but consider this, How many times have you been doing some work that you priced incorrectly and have had to turn away really creamy work because you are too busy? Most small businesses get into fierce competition and do jobs just to deprive others, this is a real no no because it plays into the hands of the contented and wealthy people, they can utilise this fear to beat down prices.


I think that the above indicates the point that we are all too busy too stressed too tired to really consider situations

A Cabbies Life

A great story I heard the other day

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. It was a cowboy's life, a life for someone who wanted no boss. What I didn't realize was that it was also a ministry.

Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives. I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and weep.

But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night.

I was responding to a call from a small brick fourplex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some partiers, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town.

When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself. So I walked to the door and knocked.

"Just a minute," answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.

"It's nothing," I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated."

"Oh, you're such a good boy," she said.

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?"

"It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly.

"Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice."

I looked in the rearview mirror. Her eyes were glistening.

"I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long."

I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to take?" I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now."

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.

"Nothing," I said.

"You have to make a living," she answered.

"There are other passengers," I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

"You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said. "Thank you."

I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.